Marriage. Man & Woman. Heterosexual relationships.
The numbers are low. Marriage between a man and a woman… it is not happening. I find this a bit interesting and depressing. I think are society is fooled and tricked into taking various paths after they leave home. So we know that most homes promote and encourage our children to finish school and go to college to get a degree. At college, they are being taught contradictory to God’s word and are influenced by other peers who have come from different walks of life. We get it. I hear the people saying, “this is what makes our children grow up”: they can become whoever they dream to be”. All of that talk gives me an earache and is completely incorrect IF you live and go by Scripture. So, if kids are leaving the home at 18 years of age and beginning a new journey that summer at a school that is either 10 minutes away from home or maybe 10 hours away from home, how could this be a factor in why people are not getting married? Do you think there is a relation???
Maybe a DELAY? Or maybe you are saying you can get married at any age? 60 years old, 48 years old, 40 years old? 32 years? If you are okay with those numbers…are you okay with 18 years old? 19 years old? 22 years old getting married????? Ha! Well, the world, AKA society, gives HAVOC if someone believes that the younger generation getting married is BETTER???? Now we are at the decline in marriage??? Are we seeing more of the younger generation get married although marriage has declined overall. Do we have some hope to populate children in stable, godly home environments vs. out of wedlock, same sex relationships and homes?????
Struggles in Marriage. Does this scare people?
We all have problems. We all need a godly, Christian therapist (I believe of the same sex). We are all messed up and broken. No one is perfect. So when you decide and/or truly desire to spend the rest of your life with someone, go in knowing you are messed up and need to be working on that. There will be struggles in marriage. You will have struggles, single too. Heck, struggling with your spouse is better!! Struggle and work it out together!!! Also, expectations can be scary! I learned that we should have expectations in premarital counseling. Now, I feel as though we should not have certain expectations for our spouse. Go to the Bible and read it. Don’t skim through it. You won’t learn anything. However, if you are reading, you will quickly learn and hopefully be obedient to what God has for you as a husband and wife. Follow those, and the struggles will be easier to work through. Marriage does not have to be scary, and it should not deter you. Do not look at your parents and run from marriage. Don’t follow your close friends’ marital relationship and expect the same results. Don’t model the celebrities cause it will fail you. Remember, everyone is broken, and we will all have issues. You have to be willing to work it out and keep your vows. Marriage is a covenant and the closest relationship that models Jesus Christ and His Church, the Bride.
Open relationships vs. Marriage
When I heard this, this scared me more than “marriage”. I mean, wanting to sleep around and mesh your soul with so many people is more scarier than ever. To have multiple sex partners is much more dangerous and stressful than having one person you can work it out with and do life with. I tell you. The world we live in needs to turn back to God. The clock is ticking, and as a Nation, we are so far from Jesus. We all need a Savior, and we need to turn from sinful living, which is killing people spiritually and physically. I mean, having multiple sex partners, you will die easily. All the infectious diseases and hygiene. Yuck. I pray men and women would find respect in themselves and stop indulging in dark, demonic behaviors that will cost their lives. Yes, the choices you make, you will reap the consequences.
“Open relationships” is one of the MOST searched topics on search engines. Let that sink in. This is the world we live in. People have no desire to be faithful to their spouses or to get married. They would rather sleep around in different beds or (no bed at all), whatever, and get infected with things that just cause shame and humiliation. We need to pray for the hearts that are addicted to sex because that is NOT where you, or anyone, will get closure, healing, love, connection, safety, comfort, or peace. You can only fill the need you are searching for with JESUS CHRIST!!!!! A husband will not fill that hole. My husband does not fill my need of a Savior. Jesus does ONLY. Get to the root of it all….it is a spiritual problem. Any yes, this will not be solved by marriage or open relationships. We need Jesus. We need a personal relationship with Him.
Do you want to get married? Are you married? Engaged? Dating?
If you are single and desire to get married, I hope you are praying and seeking the Lord. His timing is always better, and when he closes doors, it is always a blessing. Your way is not always best. Honestly, it never is. I have learned that in the many years walking with the Lord. Discernment and obedience are key. The one thing you can do in your singlehood is to grow in the Lord or give your life over to the Lord. If you are not growing in your walk and relationship with Christ, you are being disobedient. I will say this. He knows every detail. God knows your heart and motives. You cannot fool him. Be obedient. Stay pure.
If you are married, honor your spouse. Pray together and worship together. Be respectful to each other. Wives, we should always be keepers of our home. Our husbands are called and created to provide and protect. Respect and love him. He is not made to fill your emotions. Don’t work off your feelings. We all have feelings and that is not good or healthy when they dictate your relationship. It will be a disaster. Take care of your children and love them. Be home as much as possible. What I mean by that is be present with your spouse and children. “Family first” NOT work, not your friends, not the animals not your parents or in-laws, but the nuclear family. The rest follows in the appropriate order.
Grow in your walk with the Lord. It will flourish into your marriage and when it hits bumps and it will…. you will ride over the bump smoothly. Keep Jesus at the center of your home. Keep out evil. Stay pure. Guard your home and what is watched and listened to. We should be walking in purity in all areas of our lives. Do not partake in pornography in your marriage or even in singlehood. this includes movies that are rated “R” or “MA”…watch what you “glance at” and protect your heart and mind. Sexual material is EVERYWHERE and we need to be on guard and protect the home. Pray, pray and pray and pray some more. it doesnt have to be ” formal” but also dont forget to get on your knees and be humbled before the Lord. Cover your husband in prayer. Cover your children in prayer. Pray for your marriage cause as you can see, the Evil one is after it non stop. Marriage is beautful between a man and woman.
Dating? Don’t engage in sex while dating. Opens up a can of worms and is immoral. I would also suggest that you stick with being equally yoked. Biblical. Please don’t meet up at a bar or for “drinks”. If they initiate that, I wouldn’t personally follow through. Be honest and upfront. How long do you want to get to know each other? The shorter the better. You do not need to date for 6 years. You will know through the guidance of the Holy Spirit, and He should, too. Women, you should be looking for a Godly man who will lead and provide. Lives it out, and there is fruit. However, if you do not know what this means, OR if you are not doing the same. Please avoid being “fake” if you are not growing in your walk and not living out your faith, then don’t expect to find a husband in that area, cause he will not be attracted to you. A godly man will have discernment and know if you are marriage-ready and will be fit to be a godly wife.
What does the Bible say about marriage, sexual sin, relationships?
Locate, read, and reread the context of the verses in your Bible! There are plenty of more Bible verses!
Genesis 2:24, NKJV, ” Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
1 Corinthians 7:9, NKJV, ” but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.“
Matthew 19:6, NKJV, “So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”
Matthew 5:28, NKJV, ” But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
Hebrews 13:4, “NKJV, ” Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”
Philippians 4:8, NKJV, “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.”
If you need help, don’t be prideful and refuse to ask for help. Bibleandcake is always here in confidentiality, and if you have a home church and feel comfortable, reach out to them. Get help when needed. We all need help at times, and that is okay, too. You do better seeking godly assistance than running from a problem. The problems will pile up and follow you.
If you are living in sin and/or same sex marriage, most of the above will not apply to you. You cannot be living in a same sex marriage and praying for God to bless the relationship. It is SIN. Go to the BIBLE. We all need to STOP manipulating God’s Holy Word for our benefit. Repent and give your life to Jesus.
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