Since I was a young girl in Elementary school, I wanted to get married and have children. My first “boyfriend” was in 10th grade of high school, and, as I mentioned earlier, he was an idol to me. My second “boyfriend” came along towards the end of high school, too, and into my early 20s, and he, too, was an idol. My little gods. I did not have a healthy relationship with these guys. I was not healthy emotionally and not saved. I was not aware of how a marriage should be. Although I wanted and desired to get married, I was eventually engaged to marry, BUT it was not set up for a blessed marriage before the Lord. God closed the door, and the relationship came to an end.
Afterwards, I realized how sick and dependent I was on a man who was just as broken as I was. I had an unhealthy relationship, meaning he was my god and the most important thing to me. This was NOT the will of God for me or anyone. It is not right for any woman or man. I had no idea that I needed a strong, godly man to lead healthily. I did not know I should be praying for him and seeking a man who was saved. As I mentioned earlier, when I was saved… I began to read and learn more about the will of God for my life. That is when I began to pray for my future husband. I still have journal entries of these :). God is so faithful! You can read more about this here: https://bibleandcake.com/category/my-story/
However, fast forward several years, saved by grace through faith in Jesus Christ, growing in my walk and faith with the Lord….I got married to a Godly man. Praise the Lord. His timing is always perfect, and He is always on time. However, as we navigate and observe the surroundings and relationships around us, we see a lack of MEN in society. We need more Godly men in our homes. Not just any man. A man who LOVES THE LORD! A man who protects and provides!
Praise God, I have one, thankfully, leading our home. A father who is present and loving with our three small children. My husband is the man whom you can rely on. He is the daddy that our children adore, look up to, and wait at the door each day. A man who laughs, smiles, disciplines when need be and is not afraid to SPEAK UP for the TRUTH!!! My husband is the man who will work hard, long hours in a day, to get things done. He is a leader in the home, church, and workplace. He is a man who identifies with the Lord Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior. He isn’t perfect, but he strives daily to be more like the Lord Jesus. As we all should. Sanctification.
The Bible says, “But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever”. 1 Timothy 5:8, NKJV.
Singlehood. Not married.
You may be reading and cannot relate to marriage. That is okay. Single Ladies, you should be praying for a strong, Godly man who has a personal relationship with Jesus Christ before he commits to you. Who lives it out. You hear and read this often. “Living it out”. Let’s pause. This means his behaviors, activities, language, lifestyle, choices, morals and values, relationships ILLUSTRATE that he is a follower of Jesus Christ. That he is BORN AGAIN. Please STOP justifying for people. You cannot do this. Trust me, I did it in my past relationships. EXAMPLE: “Well, he reads the Bible and goes to church, but he tells a really good dirty joke, the “F” word is his favorite word, and by the way, he loves to gamble just once in a while in Las Vegas or MGM on his ‘boys trips”. What in the WORLD? NOOOO. Try again…..are you following? Let’s use discernment and wake up here! Looks ain’t everything. Look at the people in the entertainment industry….. they look nice but a MESS and doomed for HELL.
Additionally, single ladies…. if you want to settle down, get married and have a family, don’t follow the bait. Seek out a man who fears the Lord. This goes with the above FACTS. Not a man who wants to bring you to his place( if he has one) to engage in a sexual relationship. Yet, seek a man who LIVES IT OUT(behaviors, his walk, priorities) in his life daily. A man who is surrounded by grounded, Godly counsel(other GODLY MEN), too. The word “Christian” means too many different things these days. You have to do your homework. You need to be close to the Lord and care for your relationship with Jesus Christ. You cannot have a relationship with Jesus through your “future husband”.
Love your husband and be thankful for him
We look around and see some in our homes, church, and maybe our community. A strong man in his faith. A man who works HARD because he was created to work and provide for his family. I love that my husband can lead me. Women, we need to be praying for our husbands. They have so much on their shoulders to protect and provide. We are blessed to have MEN who are not whimps. Men who wear the pants and can stand up and make a decision. I love that I can defer to my husband for things. I know in my heart and through prayer that he is led by the Holy Spirit and seeks the Lord when he needs to make decisions. I love this. Ladies, let’s desire and pray for more men to lead their homes and families! Also, raising their children to become godly offspring with godly morals and values. We are losing this quickly in the homes around the nation. A man who will pay the bills and not be running on pride but humility because “he gets to breathe, work, protect, and provide”. What a blessing!!!
Wives, are we respecting our husbands? Are we looking to them and helping them when and where is needed? Think about this. I want to encourage you to meditate and read this verse, which can be found in Proverbs 15:1, NKJV: ” A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger”. Most of the time, we just need to be QUIET!!!! In addition, our husbands should not have the burden of meeting our emotional needs. Seek the Lord in this issue if you struggle with this! Some questions we should ask ourselves: Are we in God’s word daily? Are we reading and allowing the Lord to guide us as wives, women, and mothers? Are we praying for our husbands? Let’s be praying for our husbands. Pray for your future husbands if you are not married yet. Lastly, go to the Word of God rather than Google. Go and meet with God in prayer and share your heart with Him.
I want to say this. Let your husband be the leader. “Give back his pants”. Some of us want to “control” everything. We want to make all the decisions. Do not make excuses that “he cannot lead, so someone needs to”. If your husband is a believer in the Lord Jesus, pray for the Lord to reach him, and also pray for you to have more self-control as his wife and to take the backseat. If you are saved and your spouse is not, I want to encourage you to cover him in prayer and do not give up! When we admire and honor our husbands, they can thrive and continue to be the strong men who they were created to be! Therefore, we can have strong, fruitful families and loving home environments!!!
Let’s be thankful and praise the Lord for your MAN! Also, be hopeful and supportive. Be kind and loving to your husband. Show your appreciation and let’s praise the Lord for who He is and what He is doing!!!! Thank you, Lord! Also, thank you for reading and supporting this blog! Please leave any comments, doubts, concerns or questions! I would love to dig deeper with you!
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