How to say No to avoid becoming overwhelmed and stressed: Sometimes you have to say NO.

We live in a world where it is “go, go, go, go “…. nonstop! Sometimes we do this to ourselves and sometimes it is due to the circumstances around us.

As a busy mama and wife, these days I am NOT afraid to say NO. It can be hard because you do not want to disappoint others. However, you also need to stay sane, mentally healthy, and available for your nuclear family.

I learned to say NO more after having our first child. When I learned that being a daughter of the King, wife to my amazing husband and a new mother, I quickly caught on to the priorities of life. I would not be able to do EVERYTHING. I would not be able to please all those I cared for because it is not feasible. It is not healthy and it is not right.

Saying NO, is freeing, healthy, and very mature. We cannot do everything. YOU cannot do everything.

My previous posts on CODEPENDENCY and MARRIAGE https://bibleandcake.com/i-am-not-codependent/ and https://bibleandcake.com/to-all-the-wives-out-there/) illustrate different ways I have not said no( in unhealthy relationships). Additionally, my wife’s post shares how we can make sure we stay grounded and adhere to the biblical principles of being a wife.

As a mother and wife, I am pulled in various directions. I am constantly “on the job”! I have to say, it can be tiring and exhausting but it is the most rewarding “job” and position I have had! It is all because of the loving Lord I get to do this and I take great honor and am thankful. However, it is not always easy. This leads me to my main point. I do not mind saying NO.

This can pertain to some of the following:

Taking on more unnecessary responsibilities.
Adding new tasks to my daily regimen for no apparent reason.
Pleasing others when I know I cannot do it because it will hinder my main responsibility as a Wife and Mother.
Anything that will HINDER my walk with Jesus or HINDER my main role as a wife and/or mother to my husband and children.
It messes with the family’s schedule. NO. NO. NO. I will not budge.
What is the purpose?
Will saying NO be a teaching moment for our children? Is it better to say NO than to say Yes?
Do I have the time and energy?
Have I said yes before and regretted it or was convicted by the Holy Spirit?
Is it better for the family and me to say NO? Healthier, smarter.

It is very important for me to care for my husband and children. When we as mothers get burnt out it could be from unnecessary tasks we take on because we do not know how to say no. Sometimes we do not want to say no because we measure our value in all we do( this is unhealthy).

Be busy at home. Do not worry about what others think. I take value in what God says about me. I value what my husband says. Do not let guilt make you say YES more than NO. Remember your personal relationship with Jesus, self-care, and your husband and children are a priority.

Sometimes you have to say NO. That is okay.