The investigations were piling up. Non-stop calls coming into the office and Sgts passing out the next case to our team. I remember this like it was just yesterday. Teaming up with Child Welfare Services or other county agencies. Calling in the victims, in my unit, children under the age of 18 years old. A high percentage of actual victims where evil was prevalent. Calling the alleged suspect into my office occurred weekly. Interviewing witnesses and suspects. I can say, some were actual victims, and some were not. Most were not victims when they made the mistakes and wanted to deflect blame. They would fabricate stories and make it look like they were the innocent ones due to their actions, the time and place where they happened to be, and who they were associating with. It’s crazy, but suspects and family members of suspects would blame me, as the Police Officer/Detective, for their actions. People, we need just to stop. Grow up. Take full responsibility for your life and how you choose to live it. When I removed my service hat, I was still blamed today. What can you do? People want to deflect their issues towards others to feel better and make themselves look better.
“Let no one say when he is tempted, ‘I am tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone”. James 1:13, NKJV.
This is what I want to talk about this week. Deflecting BLAME on others. Usually, when we do not want to face the reality of our choices and faults, we want to find a way to blame the other people around us. Especially when there is ANGER, JEALOUSY, FUSTRATION, AND SIN. The words we do not like to hear. The word that churches cross out. The word that is ignored because we do not want to face the fact that there is A GOD who will JUDGE. SIN and REPENTANCE. It makes people run the opposite way when, in fact, it should make you run to our loving, merciful, and graceful God.
Our sin has CONSEQUENCES. SIN. Disobedience to GOD. Every day we are given choices. You need to make a choice. Whether it is GOOD or BAD. Yeah, we all make mistakes. I lived a life that was disobedient to God. I woke up and realized I was doomed for HELL if I did not make a choice to invite the Lord into my life. I am the sinner, and Jesus is our Savior. God cleaned me up and removed the things that offend Him from me. He continues to cleanse me. He can do the same for you, too.
Are you ANGRY AND FRUSTRATED WITH YOUR OWN LIFE? Are you tired of running the race and not winning? Now you have to figure out how you are going to mask those feelings. Well blaming others is not going to make you feel better or have PEACE. You will not have peace because it is not peaceful behavior and you are still living in the lie.
“A heart at peace gives life to the body,but envy rots the bones.” Proverbs 14:30, NIV
Ive spoken to hundreds of people not just in my career in Law enforcement but family, friends, neighbors and the church community. People are hurting. In our families, people are hurting. You may be so clueless or not understand, but they hurting. Deflecting blame and making yourself or another look like a victim will make you feel better for a short time, but there is no peace. You will continue to be miserable. Who wants this? You do not need this. God can set you free.
When you live in sin consistently, you will reap the consequences. Maybe not right away, but it will come. Especially when your heart has no desire to change and loves indulging in SIN. There goes the word again. The many things that offend GOD and you choose to live in that, will reap its consequences.
“For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord”. Romans 6:23, NKJV.
Wives, mothers, people…this is for all of us. Wake up and elvauate your life. Stop blaming and accusing others. Maybe you did it in the past and never repented. God knows. HE knows everything.
The children who are victims of sexual and physical child abuse are victims and by God’s grace can be redeemed,blessed and receive healing and peace that comes from Jesus Christ.
As adults, when were are making choices in our lives we have to understand that it affects others too.
When you want to drink and get drunk and get behind the wheel of the vehicle.
When you want to have sex with a man that is not your husband.
When you want to continually gossip and expect stable, godly friendships.
When you want to put your career first, women and expect your way to work out because you believe you are God and have control, but do not realize there is only one God, and it’s NOT you.
Fornication. Pornography. Lust. Relational issues. Self-worth dilemmas. Financial Stress. Idoltry. Sexual immorality, Anger, Jealousy of others. Sin. Disobedience to God. Abortions. Sexually Transmitted Diseases. Infidelity. Relationships. Marriage and Family issues. The list can go on.
“Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge”. Hebrews 13:4, NKJV.
“Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband”. 1 Corinthians 7:2, NKJV.
We have to live with our choices. Do not blame someone else because you KNOW you made mistakes and now you cannot get what you thought you really wanted.
Sin hurts us and it hurts others.
*****God CLOSES DOORS FOR A REASON. Sometimes in relation to our lifestyle and sin. Sometimes, because there is another purpose. *******
I have been blamed for people’s choices. I have been told “because of Tore….this and this”…”because of her…this and this”. I am not your suspect. I am not the reason God is working in your life or punishing you, or working out His purpose. You have to seek God. You have to go to GOD. REPENT and surrender your life to the Lord. I have been told that I am the one who caused people to have the life they are living. I have been blamed and behind their anger and frustration…sorry people. Not me, and I know that God has my back on this! Praise the Lord! Better yet! I am at PEACE! I will always stand for the TRUTH.
“If My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land”. 2 Chronicles 7:14, NKJV.
AM I perfect?…nope, and I know that. I go to God every day and repent and seek Him for wisdom and guidance over my marriage and children. God is my Rock- I seek Him in all things. I thank Him for all He has done…He is a good and faithful God. I respect the Lord for closing doors….thank you, Lord. For closing the doors and not answering all my prayers. He knows what is good for me. Hallelujah!!!!
“Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, For anger rests in the bosom of fools”.Ecclesiastes 7:9, NKJV.
I do not blame others. I reaped the consequences of pain and no peace for years when I was deliberately living in sin and darkness. The lifestyle I chose many years ago panned out the circumstances. When I surrendered, repented, and truly sought the Lord, I had peace. I am changed. I do not have the same friendships or indulge in the same lifestyle I once lived in. Furthermore, I met and married my wonderful husband at 28 years old. We sought the Lord together in our “dating time of a year”. We did not reside together. We served the Lord together and prayed a lot for wisdom and guidance for all things. We still do this weekly in our marriage. Moreover, I was blessed to become pregnant with our first son, Cupcake, at 29 years old. God has blessed us with three children. Not a pill. Not doctors, not magic. GOD blessed me with my Godly husband after much prayer and obedience and because this is according to His will. The Lord blessed us with our family after much prayer and surrendering to him. His will be DONE, not ours. God gives children. No one else. Nothing else.
“Whoever receives one of these little children in My name receives Me; and whoever receives Me, receives not Me but Him who sent Me.”Mark 9:37, NKJV.
I have plenty more to say….I am blessed to have a man who provides for his family and wants to be a man like the Bible says. My husband works very hard for our family, so I can stay home and be the homemaker God calls me to be. Sadly, people are jealous and angry with other people because they get to stay home. Sadly, they are miserable, and if you know people as I do, pray daily for them. Add them to your prayer list.
“Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
The fruit of the womb is a reward.
Like arrows in the hand of a warrior,
So are the children of one’s youth.
Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them;
They shall not be ashamed,
But shall speak with their enemies in the gate”. Psalm 127:3-5, NKJV.
I serve a God who is faithful. I do not stand with this world. You shouldn’t either. Check out your behavior and actions and seek the Lord. I will always say this in my posts.
Blaming others for your own actions and choices in your life will not make anything better. Actually, you will live miserably, masking your days with superficial things.
“But let each one examine his own work, and then he will have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another. For each one shall bear his own load” . Galatians 6:4-5,NKJV.
Seek Him. Not man. Jesus Christ! Stop blaming others and take full responsibility for your actions. Are you living a life that is pleasing to the Lord? Are you living a life that is hurting God and clearly sinful? Do not blame me. Do not blame others. Go to God. Let Him work in and through your heart. Repent and Turn to the Lord! Our God is faithful! Loving and Just!
Catch UP on what you MISSED!!!!!
- Our sin has consequences. Stop blaming others for how your life may pan out…..
- It’s been a while. I guess motherhood is not busy after all?
- Are we all craving love?
- Do not let the doubts and disappointments consume your life.
- How to be in this world and become worldly people.
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