“All your children shall be taught by the Lord,
And great shall be the peace of your children”. Isaiah 54:13, NKJV
Being raised as a little girl in the 80’s……
I always enjoyed playing with dolls when I was a little girl. I was blessed to have a large dollhouse, doll furniture, clothes, and shoes. I was excited to make birthday and Christmas lists with even more requests for the latest dolls I saw in television commercials. I loved getting dressed up(sometimes), and I can recall my mother always having my hair nicely done for school or any event. I had hair ties, braids, twists, and beautiful bows. Dresses that were colorful and printed with fancy shoes at times! I was a little girl who was taught from a young age to be respectful and “carry myself” as a young lady. In other words, I conduct myself with self-control and be modest. My home environment consisted of four sisters and a father who was present and provided for his family. I am very blessed and thankful that I had both, heterosexual parents raising me and my sisters.
Today is different and we can be different too standing on God’s TRUTH….
We are approaching 2025, God willing! We can all agree that much is changing rapidly, and if we have our trust and faith in Jesus Christ alone, then we should not worry. Raising our children today in a Godly home just guards us even more from evil. Today is different from the 1980s when I was raised. It is different from when you were raised. However, crime, sin, and darkness still occurred. We as parents should stop making excuses and take full responsibility for our children. It is our main priority to teach and discipline our children.
I ALWAYS wanted a daughter! I trust that God knew my heart and faithfully answered my prayers. In my mind, I can dress her up and play with her, paint her nails, get manicures, and do her hair. All the fun things I had much practice with as a young child. Raising Cake(our 5-year-old daughter) as a young, respectful, feminine lady in today’s culture is quite easy. I will explain!
Well, let me explain what a young lady in today’s world should exemplify. It’s pretty simple. If the world says to do it, then most likely I need to do the OPPOSITE. If the culture is promoting feminism, pornography, same-sex marriages, gender affirmation, inappropriate pornographic literature in public school/some private school libraries, fornication, abortion AKA MURDER, and the idea children are a BURDEN THEOLOGY and AGENDAS. Why would I stand for any of the above evil? Why is it evil? It is ALL AGAINST GOD’s WILL AND WORD. The world cannot get the definition correct when asked what “a woman is”. Look at the young generation. If they cannot explain what a woman is then you know where we are all headed. A confused, sick, hurting generation that needs to know the truth and know that Jesus is Lord and Savior.
My point is, that raising a little girl in this world is quite easy because I just continue to seek God’s wisdom. If I can conduct myself with self-control and strive daily to live with the help of the Holy Spirit, He will lead me and give me strength every day. He equips me. He equips my husband. It is He who directs me when we face dilemmas or are clueless about how to move forward. It is God, my Savior who shows me and my husband. He can do the same for you too.
It is also because we(my husband and I) TEACH and MODEL the appropriate behavior we encourage our children to have. This is a BIG one. “Practice what you preach” saying. Kinda like if you say you are a believer in Jesus Christ yet LIVE AND ACT in a way contrary to that statement and “belief”. In the scriptures, in the Book of Matthew, 7:15-20, NKJV, “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Therefore by their fruits, you will know them”. I go back to this verse often. It’s so simple, true, and meaty.
As I mentioned, TODAY, people are questioning and giving WRONG definitions of what is a WOMAN. Society embraces that men can be a woman and that people have the authority to change their gender based on feelings. This is a mental illness that we are embracing and allowing and it is purely demonic. Satan is working but as believers and followers of Jesus, we know who WINS in the END. Do not let these things discourage you. It should get you excited and even more fierce and bold in your stance for the Lord Jesus and what His word says.
I will say it again: Protect your little girls. At a young age, I want to encourage you that we should be reading the Bible to our children and teaching them that their identity is in Christ alone. We were created in God’s image. Show them the verse. Teach them. Pray with them. MODEL the behavior mothers. Model the behavior dads. Children are watching and we are not perfect but when we make a mistake apologize, repent, and tell our children. My husband and I do this often(WE are not perfect) and we express this to our children. It is so important because one can lose trust and not feel as though they can believe what you say especially when they do not see the same behaviors in the home environment.
How do we do it?
God made MAN and FEMALE. It is as simple as that. In the Bible, it says, “So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them”. Genesis 1:27, NKJV.
For example, I am NOT a man. I am married to a man, my husband. I ask a lot of questions especially if I have a question and/or concern regarding MEN things. I go to my husband. We have TWO boys. I defer to him with a few things once in a while because he is a MAN. Simple.
Moreover, our daughter is very feminine. We PROTECT that and ENCOURAGE that. She sits appropriately on the ground. We have pants and shorts under her skirts and dresses and teach her why(modesty). We do NOT allow two-piece bathing suits on her body. When we are in a body of water, I wear a one-piece bathing suit. When I am with just my husband and the crowd is small and private, you may find me in a modest one-piece or two-piece swimsuit that fully covers the buttocks, abdomen, and breasts. I believe that modesty and classiness are the most attractive. My body is for my husband only. I want to protect and teach my daughter the same truth that her body is saved for her husband. The WORLD is the opposite. Society invites and encourages women(children and adults) to remove clothing and wear very little. This is ALL Pornography/Pornographic. In the Merriam-Webster Dictionary the definition of pornography: “is printed or visual material containing the explicit description or display of sexual organs or activity, intended to stimulate erotic rather than aesthetic or emotional feelings”. Why in the world would you, as a parent, allow or encourage your daughters(any age) to partake in this? Why are we allowing this in our homes, churches, marriages, and families? Why are we allowing our children to cause men(brothers in Christ) to stumble? Why are husbands and fathers NOT standing firm on this? Why are we allowing and condoning this behavior? Matthew 5:28, NKJV, “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart”.
Furthermore, the way I care for my body is important not only for individual purposes but also has teaching moments for our children. Healthy eating( MINUS the Cake, cupcakes, and cookies). Thanks. Also no “negative self-talk” but speaking appropriately and positively, uplifting yourself when around your children. I wouldn’t say ” I look (you fill in the blank) with something negative around my children. Let’s remember that we are created by God and responsible for taking care of our bodies. We should also be praying that every thought is taken captive and brought into obedience to Christ. In 2 Corinthians, “For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled” 2 Corinthians 10: 4-6, NKJV. Although this can be a different topic to chat about I want to also leave this verse with you: “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well”. Psalm 139:13-14, NKJV.
In addition, YES I often speak the Word over my daughter(and my boys) in various ways, normal conversations reminding them that God created them and they are special and unique because of HIM. I tell them that their worth and gifts are in Christ only and nothing and no one else. I will NOT STOP this. Especially as they grow older, pre-teens, teenagers, and young adults. I want them to know that they are worth more than they can imagine because of what Jesus Christ did on the Cross for them.
Our daughter Cake is five years old, and you know she is a GIRL. You will know that by her physical features and behaviors. This is modeled by me, her mother. This is protected by us(her father and mother). We are transparent and firm in our beliefs as followers of Jesus Christ. As they get older we will continue to be the same and teach more age-appropriate things we may need to discuss. We get our strength from the Lord. It is easy because of Him. It is easy to model the behavior as a woman because I am a woman. God created me. It is natural because I am a woman. I hope you understand. Well, I pray you understand.
Raising a young lady. Teaching her that she is created by an awesome, loving God who does judge by the way. It’s not all sugarcoated. God will judge. He hates evil and all forms of it. He punishes. Moving on from that subject(as many false teachers are teaching differently)…teaching her that she has hair…..hair she should care for and showing her that she is special from two beautiful races (white and black) and one under JESUS Christ. Please check out the latest post on my heart regarding “race”: https://bibleandcake.com/race-our-children-and-the-heart/ She has curly hair, naturally, all her hair has a unique pattern that God gave to her in my womb. She has beautiful brown eyes and pink lips that God gave her. She does not wear makeup, she does not have hair extensions. Her hair is long because we did not cut it causing her to look like a male. We encourage (will continue as age appropriate) to manage her self-care as a young lady. Simple as that. Be a parent and not a friend. Teach your children. These values, behaviors, and morals can be applied to teenage children and young adults who still trust and respect your loving guidance as a mother.
The teaching will never end. It is okay. It is your job and purpose:
We teach our daughter (and boys) RIGHT AND WRONG. BIBLE and NOT Bible. They are learning values and morals. We pray that as we pour into this at a young age she(and boys too) will have godly morals and values. In Proverbs 22:6, NKJV, it says, “Train up a child in the way he should go,
And when he is old he will not depart from it”. I believe and stand on this with all my heart. Trusting God with all three babies He has given us to raise up in this ungodly, dark world.
Raise your children in the Lord. Do everything from the guidance and direction of God’s word and the Holy Spirit. If you do not have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and would like to know how, please feel free to reach out to me. You can also read more from this link: https://bibleandcake.com/i-want-to-invite-jesus-into-my-life/
The Bible says it all:
“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates”. Deuteronomy 6:5-9, NKJV.
“Children obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged”. Colossians 3:20-21, NKJV
“He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him promptly. Proverbs 13:24, NKJV
“Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, Nor let her allure you with her eyelids”. Proverbs 6:25, NKJV
Teaching our baby girl that her worth is NOT in her physical appearance because that will fade away. It is not in a man because he will be broken too and it is not in a title as a president or owner of a company, mother or wife but she is valued and loved because Jesus Loves her so much. She has a purpose in Him.
I hope you can benefit and be blessed by this post. We pray that BibleandCake is a blessing to you and that you will draw near to the Lord. We pray that this blog can help you become a better wife and mother for your family. We also hope you draw even closer to the Lord Jesus Christ! Thank you for reading and supporting this ministry.
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- They do not like me.
- How to raise a young lady in this ungodly culture:
- Race, our children, and the heart.
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- How to get rich or die trying…
